Author: Rubie Le faine

Rubie Le'Faine is the founder of Rubie Rubie and a writer specialising in emotional well-being, self-identity, and the psychology of modern relationships. She holds a Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Skills and has spent over eight years studying attachment theory, cognitive behavioural principles, and human development — first through formal study, then through lived experience that no course can replicate. After navigating a significant relationship breakdown, an identity rebuild, and the complex terrain of rediscovering herself in her 30s, Rubie began writing to make sense of what she had learned and to offer honest, human guidance to others going through the same. She founded Rubie Rubie in 2022 as a space for women seeking real answers, not platitudes. Based in Surrey, UK, her writing is grounded in research, shaped by experience, and centred entirely on the reader's genuine wellbeing.

The Art of Growing Up: Choosing Financial Independence Over Dependence

Growing up is not just about age—it’s about taking genuine responsibility for your own life. We all know someone who has mastered the art of taking but not the art of giving back. Someone who consumes generously—accepting free meals, free babysitting, free tickets, family financial support—while consistently finding ways to avoid their own share of […]

What Makes a Wellbeing Article Actually Useful? An Honest Look at What Works

Woman sitting peacefully practising mindfulness meditation for mental wellbeing

There is a lot of wellbeing content on the internet, and most of it is not very useful. Here is what genuinely helpful wellness writing looks like — and what to look for.

Hey Readers Let’s Talk About the Everyday Moments That Connect Us All

We spend a lot of time chasing the big moments — the milestones, the holidays, the landmark occasions. But if you look back at your most cherished memories, you’ll likely find that the ones that shaped you most weren’t the grand occasions. They were small. They were ordinary. A cup of tea on a rainy […]

6 Ways to Set Boundaries: Addressing Family Body Shaming for Better Mental Health

Telling your family that their comments about your body are affecting your mental health can be tough, but it’s an important step in setting boundaries and protecting your wellbeing. Family body shaming — whether from a parent, sibling, or extended relative — is one of the more painful forms of criticism precisely because it comes […]

The Dynamics of Masculine Women Dating Feminine Men: Exploring the Attraction and Relationship Dynamics

The idea that masculinity and femininity belong exclusively to specific genders is a cultural assumption that doesn’t hold up to scrutiny — and increasingly, people are living that reality in their relationships. Masculine women dating feminine men is not a new phenomenon; it’s a dynamic that has existed across cultures and throughout history. What is […]

7 Practical Steps to Navigating Self-Care as a Busy Mom While Balancing Life

Self-care as a busy mother is one of the most talked-about and least practised concepts in modern parenting culture. Everyone agrees it is important. Most moms struggle to make it happen. The demands are real, the guilt is real, and the hours in the day are finite. But here is what gets lost in the […]

How to Tell Your Friend to Stop Sleeping with That F-Boy (Without Ruining Your Friendship)

You’ve watched it happen enough times to see the pattern clearly. The hope, the texting, the slight change in the way she talks about him (“he’s different with me”), then the inevitable disappointment, the late-night calls, the “never again” that lasts until the next time he resurfaces. Your friend is caught in a cycle with […]

7 Steps to Avoid the Two-Income Trap and Achieve Financial Security

The two-income trap is one of the most quietly devastating financial patterns of modern middle-class life. Described by Harvard law professor Elizabeth Warren and co-author Amelia Tyagi in their landmark book of the same name, the trap works like this: couples move from one income to two, assuming this will bring financial security. Instead, they […]

Choosing Time with My Kids Over a Big Wedding: 6 Reasons I Put My Dream on Ice

I want to be completely honest with you: the idea of a big white wedding, surrounded by everyone I love, with the dress and the flowers and the dancing—I’ve thought about it. I’ve probably fantasised about it more than I’d like to admit. But the cost? I simply cannot justify it. As much as that […]

I Measure Success Through Happiness, Not a High-Paying Job—And 6 Reasons You Should Too

What does success really mean? For most of us, the answer has been shaped by society, parents, and a culture obsessed with salary figures and job titles. But what if you chose a different definition — one rooted in happiness, meaning, and everyday joy? Measuring success through happiness rather than a high-paying job is not […]