Author: Rubie Le faine

Rubie Le'Faine is the founder of Rubie Rubie and a writer specialising in emotional well-being, self-identity, and the psychology of modern relationships. She holds a Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Skills and has spent over eight years studying attachment theory, cognitive behavioural principles, and human development — first through formal study, then through lived experience that no course can replicate. After navigating a significant relationship breakdown, an identity rebuild, and the complex terrain of rediscovering herself in her 30s, Rubie began writing to make sense of what she had learned and to offer honest, human guidance to others going through the same. She founded Rubie Rubie in 2022 as a space for women seeking real answers, not platitudes. Based in Surrey, UK, her writing is grounded in research, shaped by experience, and centred entirely on the reader's genuine wellbeing.

7 Things Your Partner Will Respect You More For If You Open Up About These Conversations

There’s a particular kind of intimacy that develops in long-term relationships where neither person is trying to manage the other’s impression of them anymore. Where you can say the complicated thing, ask the difficult question, share the part of yourself you haven’t shown anyone else — and have it met not with judgment but with […]

Why Dating a Woman After I Broke Up with My Boyfriend Was a Refreshing Change

Explore the refreshing change of WomenDatingWomen after a breakup. Discover how WomenDatingWomen can lead to healing, equality, and true connection.

When my relationship with my boyfriend ended, I was certain I knew what came next: heartbreak, Netflix, eventually trying again with someone who looked pretty much like him. What I didn’t anticipate was that six months later, I would be on a date with a woman — and that it would feel, unexpectedly, like coming […]

7 Lessons I Learned From Dating Women After Toxic Relationships

I’ve spent a significant portion of my adult life trying not to think about my ex-girlfriends. Not because the relationships were bad — most of them were genuinely good, actually, in the way that things can be genuinely good and also genuinely not right for you. But because there’s a particular tension in being a […]

How to Lose a Friend and Alienate People: 6 Signs the Relationship Is Worth Losing

Two women having a difficult conversation about a friendship ending

We talk a great deal about building friendships, nurturing them, and fighting for them. We talk far less about the equally important skill of recognising when a friendship has genuinely run its course — or worse, when it is actively harming you. Not all friendships deserve to survive. Some of the most important decisions you […]

6 Things I Wish I’d Looked for in My Employment Contract (So You Don’t Make the Same Mistakes)

Most people sign employment contracts with varying degrees of attention. If you’re excited about the role, the salary is right, and the job title matches what you discussed — the document gets read at a pace that misses most of what’s actually in it. I know because I’ve been there. And then I learned the […]

8 Hidden Costs I Didn’t Plan for When Having a Baby (But You Probably Should)

No one tells you the full financial truth about having a baby. The big expenses — pram, cot, nursery, childcare — are at least visible enough to plan for. But there is a long list of costs that most new parents do not see coming, and they arrive at precisely the moment when income may […]

5 Screen Time Truths Every Parent Needs to Know — From a Child Psychologist

Screen time debates have become one of the most charged topics in modern parenting. From social media to educational apps, from YouTube to video games, parents are bombarded with conflicting advice, scary headlines, and guilt-inducing statistics. A child psychologist’s perspective cuts through the noise — and the truth about screen time is both more nuanced […]

8 Signs Your Recently Single Friend Might Just Need a Friend With Benefits (Not a Relationship)

When a friend goes through a breakup, they need different things at different stages of recovery. Early on, it’s usually comfort, distraction, and the reassurance that they’ll be okay. As time passes and the initial rawness eases, things get more complicated — particularly if you’re a close friend whose relationship with them suddenly has a […]

How to Stay Professional When Your Colleagues Aren’t: 7 Steps to Protect Your Reputation and Peace of Mind

There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from working alongside people who don’t share your standards. Not the exhaustion of hard work — that’s energising in its own way. The exhaustion of having to maintain your composure while someone near you is having a meltdown, spreading gossip, passing blame, or simply doing the bare […]

The Art To Making Friends As An Adult, According to a Neuroscientist

Making friends as an adult is genuinely hard — and it is hard for reasons that go beyond mere shyness or social anxiety. The structural conditions of adult life work against new friendship formation in ways that have a neurobiological basis. Understanding why adult friendship is difficult — not as a personal failing but as […]