Author: Rubie Le faine

Rubie Le'Faine is the founder of Rubie Rubie and a writer specialising in emotional well-being, self-identity, and the psychology of modern relationships. She holds a Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Skills and has spent over eight years studying attachment theory, cognitive behavioural principles, and human development — first through formal study, then through lived experience that no course can replicate. After navigating a significant relationship breakdown, an identity rebuild, and the complex terrain of rediscovering herself in her 30s, Rubie began writing to make sense of what she had learned and to offer honest, human guidance to others going through the same. She founded Rubie Rubie in 2022 as a space for women seeking real answers, not platitudes. Based in Surrey, UK, her writing is grounded in research, shaped by experience, and centred entirely on the reader's genuine wellbeing.

Why Your Wellbeing Routine Isn’t Working — And 6 Small Shifts That Actually Make a Difference

Woman sitting peacefully with tea enjoying a morning wellbeing and self-care routine

You tried the routine, the journal, the 6am alarm — and it fell apart. The problem is not you. Here are 6 small wellbeing shifts that actually stick.

Travelling With Your Partner: How Vacations Can Boost Female Sex Drive

There is a reason couples consistently report that travel is one of the most reliably romantic experiences they share. New environments, released responsibilities, shared novelty, and the simple act of being fully present together — away from the routines that can quietly erode intimacy — create conditions that are genuinely conducive to connection, desire, and […]

Navigating Friendships with Compassion: Seven Buddhist-Inspired Tips

When two friends are locked in conflict, the people around them face a delicate question: do you step in, speak up, or stay neutral? Buddhist philosophy — which has spent thousands of years examining the nature of suffering, compassion, and right action — offers remarkably practical wisdom for these exactly these situations. Whether the conflict […]

Are Girls Looking for Mr. Perfect Over Mr. Right?

The concept of “Mr. Perfect” has permeated romantic culture so thoroughly that many people now carry an idealised template of a partner that no actual human being could possibly fill. Meanwhile, “Mr. Right” — the genuinely compatible, flawed, real person — can walk right past, dismissed because he does not measure up to an impossibly […]

Why Children Need a Routine Bedtime: A Mother’s Guide to Healthy Sleep

Sleep is one of the most critical investments you can make in your child’s health — physical, cognitive, and emotional. Yet bedtime is also one of the most contested territories in family life, often becoming a nightly negotiation that leaves everyone exhausted. The research on children’s sleep is consistent and clear: a reliable, age-appropriate bedtime […]

Master Strategies for Fulfilled Living

The word “fulfilled” gets thrown around a lot in wellness culture, and I’ve noticed that it often means something quite vague — a general sensation of contentment, of being enough, of having arrived somewhere satisfactory. Which is fine as far as it goes, but doesn’t tell you very much about how to actually get there […]

Why Getting a Dog Changed My Life and Relationship — 7 Ways a Dog Transforms Love, Connection, and Mental Health

An open notebook with a pen and a cup of coffee on a wooden table, symbolizing a morning mindfulness practice and spiritual reflection.

I wasn’t looking for transformation when we brought our dog home. I was looking for a companion for our flat, maybe something to walk on weekends. What I got was something I hadn’t anticipated: a complete reorganisation of my priorities, my relationship, my body, and my sense of self. And I’ve since discovered that this […]

8 Male Names You’re Most Likely to Date in 2026 — According to Zodiac Compatibility

I have a recurring conversation with a friend who is absolutely convinced that she has a “type” — and she can tell you exactly what that type looks like within about forty-five seconds of meeting someone. Dark hair. A certain kind of quiet confidence. Reads proper books. Interested in music but not in a showy […]

The Rise of Tech Neck: 7 Proven Ways to Prevent This Modern Posture Epidemic

I didn’t realise I had tech neck until a physiotherapist pointed to the base of my skull, pressed a spot that made me wince, and said: “Have you been spending a lot of time looking down at a screen?” The honest answer was that I spent most of my waking hours looking at some kind […]

Embracing Self-Care: The Journey to Personal Growth

Most of us were raised with a clear moral hierarchy: selflessness is virtuous, selfishness is a character flaw. Be generous, put others first, don’t be selfish. Simple. But as adults, many people discover that this binary doesn’t hold up under scrutiny — that chronic selflessness has its own costs, and that what we call “selfishness” […]