Author: Rubie Le faine

Rubie Le'Faine is the founder of Rubie Rubie and a writer specialising in emotional well-being, self-identity, and the psychology of modern relationships. She holds a Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Skills and has spent over eight years studying attachment theory, cognitive behavioural principles, and human development — first through formal study, then through lived experience that no course can replicate. After navigating a significant relationship breakdown, an identity rebuild, and the complex terrain of rediscovering herself in her 30s, Rubie began writing to make sense of what she had learned and to offer honest, human guidance to others going through the same. She founded Rubie Rubie in 2022 as a space for women seeking real answers, not platitudes. Based in Surrey, UK, her writing is grounded in research, shaped by experience, and centred entirely on the reader's genuine wellbeing.

How to Rebuild Your Life After Everything Falls Apart

When everything falls apart at once — the relationship, the job, the identity — resilience isn’t about bouncing back. It’s about rebuilding forward. Here’s how.

The Soul ROI: A Woman’s Guide to Friendship, Energy Protection, and Living Your Best Life

Thoughtful woman sitting on a bed reflecting on life guidance and personal growth.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the concept of return on investment — not in a spreadsheet way, but in the more fundamental sense of what we invest our limited energy and attention in, and what we actually get back. Because there’s a version of modern friendship culture that has become almost entirely transactional […]

Dating Culture Australia vs UK vs USA: Why He Won’t Just Make a Move

A smiling young woman lying in bed and texting on her phone, reflecting on dating culture and waiting for a message.

Dating culture shapes everything about how relationships begin — who makes the first move, how long you wait, how clear people are about what they want. If you’ve ever lived in the Midwest, you know the drill. In Minnesota, if a guy likes you, you’ll know by the end of the first conversation. They make […]

The Great Downshift: When to Trade the City Lights for the Rolling Hills

Wellness Tips Expert Advice for a Balanced, Healthy Life

Dreaming of rolling hills but worried about the reality of isolation? The “Great Downshift” from a fast-paced city to rural acreage isn’t just a lifestyle change—it’s a biological intervention. This guide explores the 7 research-backed truths of the Urban Exit, from the neurological benefits of lower cortisol to the high-stakes “maintenance burden” of living far, far away. Learn why your brain is demanding the move and how to survive the “Boredom Wall” of month six.

When to Quit Teaching: 7 Signs It’s Time to Reclaim Your Life and Nervous System

Teacher burnout is real — and it’s not a personal failure. Here are 7 honest signs it’s time to reclaim your wellbeing and consider moving on from the classroom.

Maybe You Aren’t Ready to Date – Discovering the 321 Framework and the Importance of Being Single and Reflecting

I’ve been broken up with in some spectacular ways. There was the text at midnight. The conversation that began with “I need to talk to you” and went somewhere I’d been dreading for weeks. The person who just… stopped replying, and I spent the next month talking myself out of texting them again. And each […]

The Silent Pressure of Being “Strong”: Why Women Struggle to Ask for Help

I grew up in a family where strength was the currency. You didn’t cry at the kitchen table. You didn’t ring your friends in a panic. You got on with it. And to this day there is a version of me — she surfaces at the worst possible moments — who would rather dissolve quietly […]

The Emotional Weight Women Carry: How to Manage Stress Without Burning Out

I read something recently that has stayed with me. A researcher studying household labour asked couples to separately estimate what percentage of domestic tasks they were responsible for. When they added the numbers, the total consistently exceeded 100% — each person believed they were doing more than their fair share. The same dynamic applies to […]

From Fear to Freedom: How Women Can Build Emotional Resilience

I’ve never particularly thought of myself as someone who struggles with fear. I’m fairly decisive, I take reasonable risks, I’ve built a career and a life that required some courage at various points. And yet when I look honestly at the version of myself from my early twenties — navigating a new city, uncertain relationships, […]

Financial Confidence for Women: Breaking the Fear Around Money

The fear around money is real, it’s widespread, and it’s particularly acute for women. I know this partly from my own experience of standing in front of a pension statement feeling something between confusion and mild panic. And partly from conversations — many, many conversations — with women who are intelligent, capable, professionally successful, and […]