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Author: Cassandra Simpson

Cassandra Simpson is a wellbeing and relationship writer with a BSc in Psychology and five years of experience working in community mental health support. She writes about love, friendship, boundaries, and the emotional work of belonging — drawing on both academic grounding and the hard-won perspective that comes from navigating her own relationship patterns, friendships, and personal growth in real time. Cassandra trained as a peer support facilitator and has spent years exploring attachment theory, interpersonal dynamics, and the psychology of connection. Her writing is shaped by a deep belief that most relationship struggles come not from failure, but from the absence of honest, accessible information about how human connection actually works.

7 Ways to Stop Over Giving in Relationships Without Losing Yourself

7 Ways to Stop Over Giving in Relationships Without Losing Yourself

Over-giving has a particular texture that’s hard to describe unless you’ve been inside it. You give and give and give — your time, your energy, your attention, your care — and at some point you notice that you’re running on empty while the other person seems just… fine. And you don’t know whether to be […]

7 Things Every Parent Should Know Before Using Their Child’s Diagnosis as an Excuse

7 Things Every Parent Should Know Before Using Their Child’s Diagnosis as an Excuse

There has been a significant cultural shift in how we understand children’s behaviour over the past decade. Awareness of conditions like ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, anxiety disorders, and sensory processing differences has grown enormously — and for many children and families, this awareness has been genuinely transformative. Early, accurate identification of neurodevelopmental differences allows for […]

Why Am I Obsessed With My Boyfriend? Psychology, Red Flags, and How to Break Free

Why Am I Obsessed With My Boyfriend? Psychology, Red Flags, and How to Break Free

There’s a difference between loving someone intensely and being obsessed with them — though from the inside, it can be very hard to tell the two apart. If you find yourself constantly checking your phone for his message, replaying conversations to analyse what he meant, anxious when he’s unavailable, or structuring your emotional world almost […]

Feeling Empty? 7 Real Mindset Shifts to Help You Find Meaning Again

Woman sitting by a window looking reflective and contemplative

There’s a particular kind of emptiness that is harder to name than sadness or anxiety. Everything is fine on the surface — you function, you go through the motions, you even have moments of enjoyment — but underneath is a persistent flatness. A feeling that something is missing, though you couldn’t easily say what. If […]

Why Do I Always Self-Sabotage? 7 Ways to See You’re Doing It — and Why We Do It

Why Do I Always Self-Sabotage? 7 Ways to See You're Doing It — and Why We Do It

Self-sabotage is one of the most frustrating patterns in human psychology — because it’s invisible while it’s happening. You watch yourself procrastinate on the thing that matters most. You pick a fight right before something good starts. You leave before you can be left. You undermine yourself at the moment you were closest to success. […]