Choosing Time with My Kids Over a Big Wedding: 6 Reasons I Put My Dream on Ice

Don’t get me wrong—the thought of wearing a beautiful gown, surrounded by family and friends, celebrating the love of my life would be an amazing day. I do fantasize about it. But the cost? Well, I just can’t justify it.

As much as that one day would be a dream, the real dream is being able to spend more time with my kids. And if I’m being honest, if I had unlimited money, I would have the biggest wedding imaginable. But that’s just not my reality. Instead of putting thousands of dollars into a single event, I’ve chosen to invest in the moments that truly matter—time, experiences, and memories with my family. Here are six reasons why I put my wedding dream on ice and used the money to focus on my kids instead.

1. Weddings Last One Day, Parenthood Lasts a Lifetime

A wedding is a beautiful celebration, but it’s just that—a single day. Raising my children, being there for their milestones, and creating lifelong memories with them means more to me than a few hours of glamour. I’d rather put my money and energy into something that lasts forever.

2. Financial Security for My Family Matters More

Weddings can cost tens of thousands of dollars. Instead of spending that money on a venue, flowers, and catering, I’d rather put it toward my children’s future—whether that’s their education, extracurricular activities, or simply ensuring they have a stable, happy upbringing.

3. More Time with My Kids Is Priceless

A big wedding often means months (or even years) of planning and stress. By skipping the elaborate event, I’m choosing to spend that time being present with my children. They won’t remember whether I wore a designer wedding dress, but they will remember the bedtime stories, park picnics, and quality time we share.

4. Meaningful Experiences Over Material Things

Instead of spending money on a venue and decorations, I’d rather use it for family trips, weekend adventures, or simple activities that bring us closer. A beach day, a road trip, or even just a fun movie night at home holds more meaning to me than a grand wedding.

5. Love Doesn’t Need a Price Tag

A wedding doesn’t define my love or commitment. My relationship isn’t about the size of the ceremony but about the strength of our bond. I’d rather have a quiet, intimate moment with my partner than an extravagant event that puts financial strain on our family.

6. Memories with My Kids Are Worth More Than Any Wedding Album

Looking back years from now, I want to remember the laughter of my children, the adventures we shared, and the time I was able to give them. Those memories will mean far more to me than wedding photos.

Skipping a big wedding doesn’t mean I don’t value love—it means I value the everyday moments with my children even more. If I had endless money, sure, I’d love to have a grand wedding. But my reality is different, and I choose to prioritize what truly matters: a life filled with love, time, and unforgettable experiences with my family and to me, that’s worth everything.

Love Rubie xoxo