Single and Eating 12 Grapes at Midnight to Find Love — My Honest Take
There’s something both hilarious and deeply human about eating 12 grapes at midnight on New Year’s Eve to summon love into your life. Each grape a wish. Each wish a small, slightly desperate act of hope. If you’ve done it, you know the exact feeling: standing alone (or with equally single friends), slightly breathless from […]
6 Ways to Manage Festive Stress (According to Psychologists & Wellness Experts)
There’s a gap between the Christmas we imagine in October — the candlelit dinners, the cosy evenings, the magical family gatherings — and the Christmas that actually happens. The one where the turkey is slightly wrong and someone says something at the table and the to-do list never fully ends and you reach January feeling […]
6 Ways Buddhism Recommends You Get Over Your Ex
One of the things I’ve always found compelling about Buddhist psychology is how practical it is. Not in the self-help sense — not ten steps to a better you — but practical in a deeper way: it takes suffering seriously, it observes how the mind actually works, and it offers specific, well-tested tools for working […]
7 Ways to Learn to Stand Up for Yourself (According to a Wellness Coach)
For many of us, standing up for ourselves is the thing we know we should do — and the thing we most struggle to actually do. We rehearse the words in our head. We imagine the conversation perfectly. And then, in the moment, we soften our position, apologise when we don’t mean it, or say […]
Am I the Problem? 7 Reasons Psychology Might Be Trying to Tell You Yes
Wondering if you are the problem in your relationships? Psychology reveals 7 honest signs you may be repeating patterns — and how to finally break the cycle.
7 Reasons Why You Can Never Truly Be Friends With Your Ex, According to Psychologists
Why you can never be friends with your ex is something psychologists have studied extensively. I’ve had this conversation so many times, on both sides of it. The one where you’ve just broken up and one of you — or both of you — says, with genuine sincerity: “I really want us to be friends.” […]
7 Hard Questions You Must Ask Your Partner Before Starting a Family
You love each other. That much is clear. And somewhere in that love — maybe recently, maybe gradually over years — the idea of having a baby together has become real, alive, something you’re both moving towards. Which is wonderful. And also, possibly, the moment to have some conversations you might have been assuming you […]
7 Things I Learned About Myself This Thanksgiving: Finding Magic in the Sad Moments
There’s something about Thanksgiving — or any occasion that gathers family in a room, mixes people with complicated histories, and centres around gratitude — that functions like a psychological X-ray. The emotional dynamics you thought you’d transcended resurface. The family patterns you’ve been processing in therapy appear in real time, undeniable and instructive. The moments […]
6 Psychological Signs She’s Attracted to You at the Bar – According to Experts
Reading attraction is notoriously unreliable. We’re simultaneously terrible at detecting genuine interest (missing signals that are clearly there) and overconfident in detecting interest that isn’t (finding meaning in things that are just friendliness or politeness). The research on this is humbling — most people’s accuracy at reading attraction in ambiguous social situations is barely above […]
From Toxic Men to Tender Women: A Journey of Emotional Rebirth
I want to be careful with this piece, because it’s personal in a way that requires more care than the usual. It’s the story — not just my story, but a story I’ve heard in various forms from enough people to believe it’s recognisable — of moving from one kind of love to another. From […]